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*Health Issues>>>Cancer issues>>>Why does my mom's death seem like a bad dream? |
Issue She died over a week ago and it's still sinking in, but I feel like someone's going to pinch me and I'll wake up. I live about 300 miles away from my dad and sisters and I call them almost everyday, a few times a day and I get the feeling that I call them too much. My husband seems to be tired of me talking about my mom already. I know that I must move on with life and that's what she would've wanted, but it all happened to quickly to me. I checked the net to see if there maybe a bereavement support group in my area and I haven't had any luck. Do you know where else I may able to find one? I've always heard that the death of a parent is rough, but nothing could've prepared me for this. Best Tip denial is one of the stages of grief. it is normal. it has only been a week! you should be calling as much as you want, im sure your dad and sisters are having similar feelings. meybe you could go spend some time at home with your family and all of you could talk about her and tell stories. maybe make a memorial or some sort of tribute so that you can really acknowledge her. if she had a favorite place ( like a particular park or beach or a lake) you could go there either as a family or alone. it sounds weird but talk to your mom (or write) it might make you feel better and she can hear you. i am really sorry for your loss. i just have to add that if your husband has already lost support of you in the time when you need him most then there is something seriously wrong with him... take all the time you need. if you move on too fast it the grief will just come up in the future Others I'm very sorry to hear this, I know I was there you can call a local hospital and explain what happened and they will steer you in the right direction for the proper people to talk to. hang in there you will get over this. Because you don't want to accept the fact that she is gone. My dad died last year. And sometimes I can't believe it's true. it took awhile for me to accept the fact that he is gone. it was real hard for me. Go visit the grave, I do all the time. I make sure he has flowers. may god bless your mom soul. One think I would suggest you that instead of thinking about your mom's death, think good thinks which you mom did in her life and write in a paper instead of talking to other people. So sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mother to cancer three years ago, and can understand what you are going through. First of all, it sounds very normal to me. It took me close to a year to be able to fully pick up the pieces and move on after my mom's death. Most people I talk to share similar experiences with the one year mark. It gets better with time, and you are only one week into this. Each week will get a little better for you. You aren't going to "move on" until you have gone through all of the stages of grief. If you have a pastor or other clergy available, they would be a good person to start with. Your doctor will also likely know some local support groups, or your local cancer society. Hope this helps-hang in there. It's going to take time, but time DOES heal. Youre right, death of a parent is rough, I wouldnt eat, talk, or even sleep for a week when my UNCLE died, but, idk what it feels like to lose a parent, and I'm sorry for you. I think the reason you think its a dream is because your mind wants it to be a dream, it just hasnt settled in as real life yet, in time it'll pass and youll hopefully move on, until that happens, try to talk to people about it, dont just keep your feelings bottled up, or you will get to the point where you will go critically insane (no offense im just saying) Cause i've seen that happen to alot of people, they just dont talk about it until there mind just goes blank. What you are feeling is COMPLETELY normal. Grief happens in stages and you are in stage one. You have a long way to go. If you are supported and allowed to grieve your loss of your mom in your own time, then you will be able to heal better and go on with your life. Treat yourself with special care and try to surround yourself with people who support you during this difficult time. Maybe a church nearby, or a good friend, or someone you know who has lost a loved one. Prayer also helps. Or write your feelings and thoughts in a journal. Good luck. |
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