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Should I let my childs father see his child? |
Issue Please read carefully!I just had a 6wk old baby by a man Ive been dating for 5yrs on & off.He has put me through Hell! & back b/c I was pregnate.Our child was born early due to stress(31wks).Although he's done all ths I still love him.We talked about marriage and all.He has thrown other girls n my face,taken another women 2 c or daughter @ the NICU,thats 2 name a few.He is very young and now says that he is sorry.Still seems a lil unsure if he wants to make it work w/me.He gets jealous and makes smart comment like "he could b w/me if he wanted.My friends say that his pride is so bad that he is trying to c where my head is b4 making a move.(His pride is outta this world)Should I take his privelages away for a second,stop the phone calls.His family luvs our daughter there the only reason I havent.I want him to know im the best thing and he cant treat me any kind of way and he claims he's changing.***Serious answers only b/c im really hurting behind his bullsh*t.He is 24. Best Tip Although your hurt its not fair to the baby by keeping him away ,however PLEASE don't fall for the "we need to be together for the baby'' Bullsh*t , and although it hurts now it will get better I promise and about the phone calls if they don't pertain to your child kindly let him know you have nothing else to talk about until he proves he is ready to change and grow the hell up and then you should discuss your relationship (and note change doesn't happen in a day or even a week) Others Sounds to immature to face the responsibility of fatherhood. Why not cool it with him and see how you both react/feel after say 6 MONTHS. You think with your mind not your heart. are you not thinking of keeping the child from knowing his daddy ?? why deprive the kid of knowing who his daddy is ......... dont do it for the man , but you need to do it for the kid , he has a right to know and possibilly love his father ..yes you let them see each other ...... it doesnt have to be alone , the dad came come meet you both somewhere , but for the kids sake he should see daddy ............... you cant use the kid as a tool because you dont like what the man did ....... First of all, this isn't love. Love is warm and comfortable. Love is not throwing other girls in your face. The choice is yours. Do you want your child to grow up in an environment that may become hostile? Do you love your child enough to say "NO" and stand up for yourself to your boyfriend? This child did not ask to be born. Remember, a child is a gift from God, not a toy. Your boyfriend (if that's what you want to call him) sounds very immature. I recommend supervised visits through the courts. It doesn't take long and based on what your saying, I believe it will be granted. Don't forget to go for child support. Your baby deserves it. I'm raising a granddaughter and all the child support gets directly deposited into a bank account for her college education which is 11 years away! Good luck to you. This is about your precious baby girl, not a boyfriend and not about pride. I am sorry for this situation. But this is between you and him. Please let the baby know its father, otherwise you can cause a lot of psychological problems of depression and questions when the child grows up. reconcile with him, i would not suggest as u are matured enough to judge him as person but depriving your child of his father is not done. Your child will always grow up with a feeling of resentment & blaming you for not letting him ever know of his biological father. Children have geat powers so who knows he might really change looking at the cute peice of god's creation. maybe for the security of yourself and your family try seeing a councilor, you you and him together, and if he is the father you should never stop letting him see his child, unless you feel there could be danger. |
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