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Here but not (Mentally)here?

Issue
I have this thing I do. Where I am physically here, but Mentally i'm not. I think its a detachment thing.

When i was a child I lived in a home where my father was an alcoholic. He was very abusive. Since the pain was bad, I think I detached this way.

Its frustrating cuz I am here, but I feel myself in a cloud. Sometimes it last a long time, sometimes not.

How do I get myself to be present mentally?

Best Tip

I can only partially empathize. I am actually trying to cultivate the skill that has evidently become a problem for you.

It seems like the way to come out of this protective state would first be to not allow your stress response to kick-in. That is to say, if you worry about this detachment problem, that worry will cause your mind to respond by detaching.

Fix your attention on a positive stimulus or image. Practice this at first when you are in a totally non-threatening environment. Concentrate on the smell of a cup of coffee. Savor the taste of the coffee, feel the warmth of the cup and of the liquid in your mouth. Listen to the sipping sound you make.
Focus your senses on your body, then move on to comment to yourself on environmental noise. Note one sensation from each of your five senses in rotation. Do this five times per session.

Others
Go to a psychologist of sorts and get help.
The body has a way of coping with things it cannot handle...and detachment is a natural way of doing this.

Since you were in an abusive, dysfunctional environment as a child....you learned to "detach" yourself from the present as a means of escape. You learned to retreat into a "Safe Cocoon", where you could be safe and would not be hurt.

You have more or less programmed yourself to do this, sometimes without realizing it. It is easier to slip away to your "Safe Place"...than to learn to deal with life.

I suggest you make an appointment with a Psychologist to work thru your issues. You need to learn to face your fears, bad situations and let them go....so you can grow to be all you can be.

Until you let go of past traumatic events and understand how and why you feel about them as you do...your life will continue to be in stasis.

You have already made the first step in asking for help. Follow this thru for yourself and your future.
I guess only the man upstairs can help you. Look for him he is near by.
Me.