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| *Health issues>>>Mental Health issues |
I've hurt myself enough, I want to start learning to love myself? |
Issue Please help, how does one go about loving themselves. I am tirer of bad relationships, and me always being the victim. Best Tip Then enjoy being single for a while. It's really not that bad. If you'd like to spend a day in your underwear, you get to. If you want to take a walk in the park, or catch a movie, you get to. Go do all the stuff you were waiting for some guy to do for you! Others date me! WHAT YOU CAN DO IS ACT STRAIGHT AND NOT RETARTED SO JUST LETTING YOU KNOW THAT YOU IS RETATED.... Start out by telling yourself that you are a beautiful person and those people who hurt you were fortunate to have you in their life for a short time.....then dump them and be independent for a while. believe it or not, most people are drawn to a certain type of person. Some people attract others that use them. these people are called co dependent and they need to be needed, no matter how bad they are treated. You are a special person. You don't need someone to be special and you don't need to be with someone who is going to victimize you. For starters stop considering yourself a victim......we could all probably love ourselves more.......find out what it is that makes you happy.......spend sometime alone getting to know yourself don't count on a man making you happy......get a hobby.....and start smiling You first need to know that you were "fearfully and wonderfully created."There is nothing wrong about you. There are a multitude of people who love you who don't know your name and whose names you don't know. You are worth loving and you have got to be the first one to love yourself. Say it I am worth loving. For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever should believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life. So, you have God in your corner and he's never wrong. Who are you to disregard something that God esteems?Knowing that God loves me and you is and was the basis for my recovery from mental and physical isolation. So make up your mind that you are loved and worth loving. Love is a decision. So is hate. As to bad relationships, treat others as you want to be treated. Keep your eyes open while in these relationships. Be friendly, meet and speak to many people on your way to work, at the laundry, in your lobby etc. This way you will expand your pool of people your meeting. Don't go in for the intimate relationship right away. Find out about these people first. Meet in a place that is not your home. Arrange meetings like volunteering to cook for the homeless, or after school homework help, painting a friends apartment, helping you with your laundry (sans your unmentionables), choosing a park or beach to clean up etc. Not being a victim: Go into a relationship knowing what you want. Give your time to the other person because you like spending time with them not because you expect something back. This way you will not be a victim. If they choose to be a jerk or antisocial its their lost. But when you walk away you will walk away knowing that you treated them civillyand if they can't return,at the least civility and good will you don't want them in your life. Keep your eyes open! In addition men are funny creatures they almost always tell you who they are right off the bat. So really listen, because they know themselves better than you do. go seek help. |
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