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I am going on Anxiety meds, my kids know I have been struggling....? |
Issue because I have not been the most wonderful person to live with lately, I have been really hard on them. Should I explian it to them, and if yes- how? Or do I just let it go and hope that this helps??? (they are 7 & 5, and very bright) Best Tip It is important that you talk to your kids about what is happening. They already know it hasn`t been good, they need to know why and what you are doing about it. When parents struggle and kids are exposed to this, their security is threatened. You are in charge of their security so it is up to you to reinstate it. You don`t have to give them big long explanations, excuses etc just let them know that you have been sick(mood disorders are classified as an illness) but you have seen a physician and you are taking medicine to help.If you are seeing a therapist, let them know you talk to someone who helps. Remember you are modelling, so what do you want them to learn? Having trouble in life is normal, doing something about it is normal,talking about it is normal. Talk about behaviors, so that they know you should not have behaved certain ways so they can see you take responsibilty for this. Tell them what you will be doing to help yourself. Don`t ask for their help...kids are famous for taking responsibilty for their parents troubles and we all know it is not their job...let them be kids. Don`t over talk about it. Kids are simple. They want to understand so their world won`t be so scary, and they want to know that their mom is going to be ok, so their future won`t be so scary. Acknowledge your strengths...love your self and your kids...lighten up as much as you can. As Barbara Colorosso says don`t sweat the small stuff Others I think they are a bit young to be faced with your problems, and what you do to fix them. I'd just be working on improving yourself and your relationship with them. Hope the meds help. I hope you get well. Around the same age mine are. I am on anti anxiety meds and my kids love it. I am now chilled out instead of driving them crazy. Think of it this way it isn't so bad having to take them if they are going to make you feel better are they? I am sure that your family will actually appreciate that fact that mom isn't stressed out anymore and can relate to the kids. Remember don't worry anymore just sit back and enjoy. Good Luck If the drugs help you, wouldn't you want to be honest with your children about taking them? It might make it easier for them to seek help if they ever found themselves in the same situation. They might be bright, but emotionally they seem a bit young to have to cope with all the details. A simple, honest explanation that mom's been having a rough time and she's trying hard to get better, she loves you through good times and bad might be enough at this point. A "we'll get through it together" is the way to go. If they ask questions you can't answer, maybe say that you don't know right now, but when you figure it out, they'll be the first to know. It is totally acceptable if you want to tell them why you have been the way you have. You could tell them about being anxious and that you want to get better and you are working really hard on it. That way if they ever see mommy taking pills they won't jump to other conclusions. Kids are so smart. I'm sure they would be supportive and happy for the explanation and/or apology especially if you have been very difficult to be around lately. Also opening the line of communication with children early is important, so that when they are feeling anxious or scarred or anything, they know that you will understand and are someone they can talk to about that kind of stuff. |
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