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How do I go back to having positive outlooks and being a nice person when so many things have changed?

Issue
I used to be a really nice person. I used to be optimistic. Due to family illnesses and drama with friends, I've become kind of cold and heartless. I can still be nice but I want the good feeling that comes with it. I've dealt with a lot, personally, and now I feel like everything that can go wrong will. How do I make myself feel better and be more optimistic?

Best Tip

You still are a nice person she is waiting to come out again.It takes time but she will.Family illness is unbearable at any time,drama with friends they should be helping you at this time!! Find time for yourself ,listen to the music that you use to listen to,read a great book,,whatever you use to do before all this made you feel so cold and worthless.Just know that time has a way of handling troubles,and you will be okay soon..so take deep breathes and hang in there.

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It is hard. Don't kid yourself. Just remember, life is what you make of it. You can sit around and mope and sulk, but instead, go out there and make others happy. When they smile, you will too.
I hear you. I learned a long time ago that no matter what happens, 1) Time heals and, 2) Always have something to look forward to. That's always helped me to stay focused on the upcoming happiness or joy that could bring. Plan a solo vacation, put a leather coat on layaway, go to a play or movie next weekend, hell, take yourself for ice cream after school or work. Always look forwrad to something.
Hi. I feel the same way you do. Everything that can go wrong will. I've stopped making an effort, i've stopped smiling altogether and i used to be really positive. I'm afraid that my life isn't what I wanted for myself and that I'm going nowhere. I just don't care anymore.

What I recommend is finding a project that really makes you happy, like writing a book or redecorating your bedroom, that will keep you motivated and happy
You are still a nice person! When you get hurt, often repeatedly, it is normal to develop a tough exterior to protect yourself from future pain. The problem comes when your self-preservation turns into cynicism. Don't start to believe that ALL is last and EVERYONE is out to hurt you. Deep down you know it isn't true. It is just that we all get hurt sometimes.
Find something you love to do and get all of the joy you can from it. Some people turn to religion or meditation. I get my peaceful feeling from excercise or Yoga. It can't make all of the bad go away but it can remind you of how good you can feel in your own body, mind and life. Give it a try and see how long you can make your "high" last, no matter where it comes from.
Maybe you weren't being realistic before and people took advantage of your good nature. You make yourself feel better by forcing yourself to change your thoughts. If you start to internally complain or find yourself starting to think dark thoughts, tell yourself to stop it, and count your blessings. Don't let this negative thinking become a bad habit. You are in control of your thoughts- take the reins.