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how do you stop being a perfectionist?

Issue
i screw myself up in knot when things don't work out as i planned and people have a different point of view. i do respect them but inside i'm so annoyed. life just isn't perfect and we all have to compromise and bend but it makes me feel ill.

Best Tip

I don't think there is any way to totally STOP being a perfectionist. I would never suggest you go on any of those ridiculous drugs to help you; people can cure their own problems for the most part, it just takes more work than popping a pill every day.
I am also a perfectionist in many ways. It's hard for me to even consider someone else's opinions when I feel as though mine are right. It makes sense to just say, "Stop and truly consider what others have to say," but doing it? Different story!
Try exercises in order to get yourself out of this rut. I know you feel as though you're ruling everything, but it's actually ruling YOU! This disease (yes, I do believe it's involved with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is controlling you. It sounds as though you're a strong independent person. How does it feel to allow something to be overtaking your life?
You need to step back and consider situations. Don't fly off the handle at the people you love and who are close to you just because they don't think the same way on things. THIS is definitely going to take some practice. Before you go blurting out the "right" way to do something, really take a moment to consider what others around you have to say. Keep quiet until the situation has died down; maybe you'll realize it's not you who is fixing the problems alone-everyone else can take care of themselves as well.
Also, I have tried many different things to combat my problem (I always feel like I need to make everything even, neat and tidy). Try throwing a pile of junk on the floor and DON'T LET YOURSELF PICK IT UP! I know that sounds a little off the deep end, but it's little exercises like this that will make your life less "squeaky clean." It doesn't have to be! Be sloppy! Make a mess in the kitchen when you're cooking dinner and don't even THINK about cleaning it up until the next day AT LEAST! (I know those spots on the oven are going to drive you nuts!)
Ask loved ones for their opinions without giving yours. Actually CONSIDER what they've got to say. Before getting into a dispute about something, sleep on it. I'm sure that will ALSO drive you nuts, but DO IT! It will help you in the long run. If you still have a strong opinion about something after 24 hours, feel free to express it. You'd be surprised, but a lot of times, situations will work themselves out.
The world is not perfect. Don't let this intense desire to control/perfect things be the ruler of YOU. Strong independent people are generally the ones who need the most help. Allow the people around you to figure out situations for themselves; they too will be stronger because of this. Good luck.

Others
try a little Paxil庐 ?

perfectionism is a sign of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and can be treated to some extent with medication. Medication allows one to take the focus off the compulsive nature.
....I AM ON SOMETHINGS BUT NOT OTHERS.
Why on earth would you want to lower your standards?
Have some pride in yourself.
You need to step back and look at what you are doing to yourself. Chill.
I m just the same. All my friends call me Monica cos I go crazy when everything doesnt go perfectly. But unfortunately we cant expect other peoples reactions and behaviour to be perfect. We don t have that much control. I try not to get too vexed about it but its hard.